i've started telling my family and close friends that we are moving on to IVF next cycle if this cycle doesn't work. some of them don't know that we've already done an IUI once, so they are a little surprised. mr.m absolutely does NOT want me to tell anyone about his sperm problems, so it's hard to explain to people why we need it. i've just been saying, "well, based on all of our testing, the doctor's think it's our best chance". i need people to know what i'm going through so i can talk about it and get some emotional support, but it's hard to dance around the reasons for it. most of them are pretty clueless about infertility stuff, so it doesn't matter and i'm sure the 1 or 2 people who are familiar can guess that we have more than PCOS as an issue. we were visiting mr. m's brother and his wife (and 3 kids) yesterday and we were getting some comments about when we were going to have kids, so we told them we were having some trouble and doing an IUI. the reaction was, "oh that's weird, you're getting pregnant from a turkey baster." needless to say we did not tell them what our next steps are. people are so insensitive!