i ended up calling the doc yesterday, just to check in and let them know i was still waiting.  i thought they'd just tell me to remain patient and it would come.  i was wrong.  they sent me in for a blood pregnancy test, just to make sure, and sent some provera to the pharmacy.  

four tries and one 2 inch purple bruise later, the tech finally got enough blood to tell me what i already suspected.  i am not pregnant.  just absurdly late.  

i will begin the provera tonight for 5 days to induce a period and then onto IUI #1.